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What’s in a Name? Inspiration?

Posted on: Friday, February 20th, 2009
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When your BreakAway takes you far from your native habitat, some remarkable things happen:  Your senses re-awaken. You notice things. And you find grinspiration in the strangest of places. 

Having worked as a namesmith, I love that Caribbeans name just about everything—boats, cars, bars, buses—with clever and empowering monikers.  Here are my fave five…

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  • Vibes.  The energy, passion, and riddims on an island can be intoxicating—in a good way.  You hear the music all over, see the color (natural and human) everywhere, and feel it in the smiles (and stinkeye).  It can warm the soul like the sun.
  • Chillaxin.  It took weeks to achieve a deep groove.  But at some point, staring out to sea became a legitimate pastime.  And relaxin’ became as natural as breathing.  Hours might float by with (at most) some reading, waterplay, and sandcastle-building to show for themselves.  For a change, such lack of productivity brought glee, not guilt. 
  • All Friends No Enemies.  The Caribbean can be an in-your-face place.  It’s slow and polite, yet one must learn to bark a bit to settle something or just get attention (or privacy).  Dat’s awright; don’t make nobody no enemy.  After most confrontations, there was a soul-bump, a smile, and a better respect and understanding. 
  • Blessed.  Spoiling one’s self and fam with 69 days of fun, sun, and exploring makes a guy feel truly blessed.  But the feeling also comes from the flip side of that:  Leaving friends, belongings, and creature comforts behind and learning that it takes precious little to feel well-off.  Folks in these third-world nations often act more blessed than suburban mall rats. 
  • Vision. What’s vision?  Who knows?  Yet we know when we “see” it.  Vision comes from above and within.  Vision (moreso than money or guts) made this Sabbatical materialize.  Vision can make most things happen—and will make the next BreakAway happen, God willing. 

G’Bye Grenada, Isle of Passion

Posted on: Friday, February 20th, 2009
Posted in: Travelog, 4th Stop: Grenada, Latest Trip | 5 comments
Why Grenada? Nobody we know has gone there. Research sources barely mention it. And except for that invasion in 1983, most Americans hardly know of it. Yet it rose through the sea of possibilities and became this Sabbatical’s primary destination. Destiny proved right. I love Grenada, isle of spice. Let me count five ways…

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  • Grenada is an isle of spice. Nutmeg, cinnamon, cloves, of course. But “spice” also implies the zest, zeal, and color that Grenadians sprinkle into everything they do.

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  • Grenada is an isle of independence. With a population of only 100,000, they are one of the smallest nations in the western hemisphere. They take their autonomy seriously—supplying their own food, nurturing their culture, and taking care of their treasures.

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  • Grenada is an isle of beauty. Some of us just love sea, sand, and surf. But Grenada also offers mountains, rivers, waterfalls, cliffs, forests, plantations, farms, wildlife, grasslands, a volcano, and a rainforest. And that’s just the natural stuff!

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  • Grenada is an isle of compassion. In much of this world, entitlement and indifference fester. Here, not so much. People remain gentle, generous, and polite. Nothing is rushed, while moments are savored. It’s no wonder they’ve thrived through natural and political hurricanes. Grenadians openly talk about—and show—“love in their hearts.”

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  • Grenada is an isle of passion. How do you describe passion? Maybe you don’t, since it’s more of a visceral phenomenon—what you see, hear, taste, smell, and feel. I’ll really miss Grenada. But the extraordinary, exhilarating sense of life with passion: That’s what I’ll miss the most.

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G’Bye, sweet Grenada. God willing, we’ll meet again.

How the hell do you do it?

Posted on: Friday, February 20th, 2009
Posted in: Spendology, Blog | One comment
It’s countdown time for this 69-day BreakAway in the Caribbean—a bittersweet time that brings a high tide of introspection. “Why” I do this (Sabbaticals) is clear as Caribbean waters to me (and frequently babbled about on this website). But now I ponder a question sure to await when we get back home…

  • How the hell do you do it?”
It’s simple, really:  Just Do It.  But to provide the financial wherewithal that can fuel that bravado, I strive to live by 11 Commandments of fiscal fitness, the first of which is “Live within your means, no matter what that means.”  At some point, if these commandments work, money need not be an ongoing stressor.  And life is too short to let money completely dictate your dreams. 
 
Living within your means can sometimes mean avoiding things like expensive cars and debt (except a modest mortgage).  Such steps usually will ensure that savings happen.  So when some savings align with a good time to BreakAway, poof!  It’s time to disappear, and let some money buy free time and thought—since you’ve “earned” this reward. 

  • Money flows and money goes.
Everyone loves money.  Yet money seems to be bringing everybody down these days, from Grenada to China to across the Americas.  I’ve stubbornly avoided news and market updates; they’re depressing and one goal of this BreakAway is to Be Here Now and nurture long-term wisdom.  But you can’t escape the bad news. 
 
Even on isolated islands, taxis say they’re half as busy as usual.  Resorts are throwing in free meals, happy hours, upgrades, and everything but the towel to get some cold bodies to warm their beach chairs.  Beach vendors are cutting deals on carvings, spices, and lobster.  It’s the middle of a harsh winter—and eerily quiet in vacationland.  Even in the popular eateries and attractions, you could hear a coin drop. 
 
Suddenly, the old adage is true:  Everything is negotiable when times are tough.  It feels suspiciously like deflation.  Debt detonation.  Depression. 

  • And yet, work/life hackers are everywhere
So it’s good to get away.  But the best reasons are not escape and avoidance, but rather the people.  I swear:  Both residents and travelers on an island like this have pretty much written their own rule books. Nobody’s “normal.”  Status quo is for seekers who quit.  And while few folks harbor that aggressive American trait of wanting to tell you their life’s story, the stories amaze. 
  • Franny and Isaac come from completely different places, and now live on his family’s Grenada farmland where they raise cabbages, make art, and live simply. 
  • Native Grenadian Joan walks the beach selling her handmade dolls and colorful shirts.  She’s no pest:  She’s one of their genial “licensed vendors.”  If you like a pattern but she has no shirt in your size, she’ll make you one overnight—for US$20. 
  • A Danish couple works hard running two movie theaters, but pulls their kids out of school to show them the world when the spirit moves them. 
  • Andy and Rebecca live simply (as in, off the electrical grid) the warm season in Maine, where she’s an organic gardener and he’s a fisherman.  With kids now in college, they save enough to spend winters on their favorite island, where she sells her watercolors. 
  • Two Swedes and their three kids manage school and careers, but think nothing of taking 22 days to sail across the Atlantic and to spend some months in the islands before they figure out how to store their boat here and return home. 

They’re everywhere—once you wander.  They’re my inspiration.  And I’ll miss being surrounded by them. 

  • It’s so NOT about the money. 
These folks don’t share much in common.  But there is one little thing:  They’re not rich.  Nor are they tied to their credit cards, or the emotions of economics.  So although cabbage growers and cinema owners may feel the slowdown, they won’t let it ruin their day, year, or overall outlook on life. 
 
Frankly, this has been a good time to BreakAway.  The crowds are smaller.  The service is better.  The locals have more time and seem less harried than might occur when too many tourists invade. 
 
Grenadians are mysteriously optimistic people.  When talking shop with dozens, I’ve not heard one complain about “hard times” or “feeling the pain.”  If anything, they’ll use it as a chance to preach a lesson:  
I tink it maybe be a good ting…People needs to slow down and jus’ enjoy what dey got and stop going into so much debt…” 
 
When watching my son get a 45-minute, oh-so-careful haircut (for $2.80) in a local village here, I paged through some old papers.  In one, dated October-something, the Grenada government was running an ad that says it all: 
 
“Manage Your Money.  Live Your Dreams.  October is National Financial Literacy Month.”
 
Grenada is a third-world nation with some obvious poverty.  But the people eat well, take care of one another, and show few signs of greed. 
 
Perhaps one day the USA will sponsor a National Financial Literacy Month. 
 
Until then, debt be not proud.  And keep saving your dreams. 

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BreakAway Stuff Essentials

Posted on: Thursday, February 19th, 2009
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If you’re planning to BreakAway with your family, don’t leave home without these time-test travel essentials–sure to come in handy, alleviate boredom and ensure some fun.      

  • Frisbee.  Extraordinarily useful. Playing catch is uplifting and teaches about breezes.  Perfect as a plate; keeps food on-board for passing and is easy to clean.  Butt protector on wet sand.  Dice catcher for simple games.  Playspace for Polly Pockets.  Hip factor:  Symbolizes a cooler era, before digitalia sent us inward; is noncompetitive. 

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  • Swiss Army Knife.  Blades stay sharp and cut the cheese and anything edible.  Carves wood.  Mini-tools can fix things. Easy to cart and clean. Even has a plastic toothpick.  Hip factor:  Features bottle-cap opener and corkscrew.  (When a guest at a home that was missing its corkscrew, the Swiss became an international hero.) 
  • Felt art board.  Found this little gem online before the trip, and what a Godsend it’s been.  It’s light, mobile, and creative as can be—even for parents.  Hip factor:  It’s handmade, which is way cool.  And it makes colorful art easy. 

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  • Sticks.  Yes, sticks:  My kids insist.  They find sticks—driftwood, seedpods, chop-sticks—and use them for drumming riddims, drawing in the sand, making things, or beating each other up.  Hip factor:  Drumming rocks. 
  • Backpack.  Carries whatever you may need, like Frisbee, Swiss, water, paper, pen, sunscreen, meds, snacks, (sun)glasses, koozie, toys, cash, mini-poncho, and plastic bags (vital around rains and seas).  Good for packing camera without showing.  Can be secured to something to assist thief-proofing.  Hip factor:  You look like a savvy traveler.
  • Local papers.  Buy them all; read them often.  Show stuff to the kids to help them understand we’re not in Kansas any more. Get a sense for what’s up with the locals; learn island politics and issues.  For example, Grenada and Cuba remain BFFs; taking pictures in St. Vincent is now legal; and St. John solves way less than 10% of their serious crimes every year.  Hip factor:  Conversations with locals can elevate immeasurably. 
  • Snacks.  Kids these days.  Their appetites are less predictable than Minnesota weather.  They’ll turn up their nose at delicacies at mealtime, then insist on a PBJ later.  Often, a kitchen is not handy—nor a fridge.  So this backpacker prevents whining with a few small but filling things like apples, bananas, peanuts, crackers, cookies, and snack bars.  It’s a matter of survival.  Hip factor:  Your kids like you.
  • iPod.  This trip has been decidedly under-mediated by design.  But the little iPod (and its big cousin, the portable speaker dock) has been a treat.  Sesame Street songs in headphones can save a 5-year-old when delayed in transit.  Speakers blasting Jimmy Cliff can bring the happy back into a sun-fried family’s pre-dinner hour.  Music bonds families, and radio is undependable at best on islands.  Hip factor:  May be the hippest thing, like, ever? 

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  • A deck of cards.  Can work miracles in tricky situations, to say nothing of providing just plain fun.  CurlyGirl can do sorting, number, and memory lessons.  AllBoy can learn strategic games.  The family can play.  Best adaptation:  Math-fact flash cards; just pick 2 cards, and do the math (multiply, add, subtract, or divide with fractions).  Hip factor:  Cards are cool—always have been, always will be. 
  • Pass the Pigs.  A compact little game of chance, rather like dice, but better.  The game is fun and quick and easy.  The pigs make cute little toys for youngsters with imagination.  Hip factor:  Udderly original, and sure to attract any nearby Iowa tourists. 

Travel Diversions

 

  • Pen and paper.  Instant amusement for children.  Essential for swapping vitals with new acquaintances.  Priceless for capturing fleeting ideas and keeping lists.  Hip factor:  You’re set when someone asks, “Got a pen?” 

 

For A Good Vibe, Ride The “Reggae Bus”

Posted on: Wednesday, February 18th, 2009
Posted in: Travelog, 4th Stop: Grenada, Latest Trip | 3 comments
On the last island (Bequia), it was called the “Dollar Bus.”  Here, it costs about the same, and is sometimes called the “Reggae Bus.”  They are privately owned vans that run established routes, all across the island. They tend to be crowded but exceptionally polite.  And the drivers, just like in Bequia, are crazy.  But it’s a great ride, and great vibe.  Grenada is way laidback but with good energy.  Just check out some of these heartening bus names and messages…
 
  • Shining Light
  • No Hard Feelings
  • Yes Jah
  • Live On
  • Always Decent
  • Live Simply
  • Vision
  • No Stress
  • Faithfull
  • Vibes
  • Stamina
  • Sweet Heart
  • 100% Grenadian
  • Life Nice
  • Unity
  • Conscious
  • Good People
  • Just Simple
  • Blessings
  • Love is the Answer
  • New Beginning
  • Higher Level
  • Next Level
  • Jus Level
  • Chilaxin
  • Bless Up
 
And on the back window, many owners create customized communiqués for all to see…
 
  • The sky is wide enough for a million stars.
  • Who feels it knows it. 
  • Rise to action.
  • Positive feeling.
  • Follow righteousness.
  • God is Love.
  • All Friends, No Enemies.
  • All Right!
  • You will never fail until you stop trying.
  • Jah have a blessing for you.
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The Great Caribbean Beer-Off!

Posted on: Tuesday, February 17th, 2009
Posted in: Travelog, 4th Stop: Grenada, Latest Trip | 6 comments
Beer tastes better down here (if that’s possible). It goes well with seafood, sailing, sunning, and as a palate (and/or body) cleanser for the salt after swimming. While all beer is good food, a few barely pass the smell test. So please open your palate, mouth, and mind. It’s time for the Great Caribbean Beer-off!
 
AND THE WINNER IS…STAG! 
 
HERE ARE THE FINAL RESULTS… based on ratings in 10 categories worth 10 points each—possible 100 points.
1st Place:  Stag, 85 points
2nd Place:  Heineken, 70 points
3rd Place:  Hairoun, 69 points
4th Place:  Carib, 55 points
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  • 1st Place:  STAG  (pronounced:  STOG!)
Name:  8.  A bit tacky, but easy to say after you’ve had a few.  Unique.  Macho. 
Story:  7.  Supposedly from Trinidad, a place that makes most people agog and afraid. 
Marketing:  10.  Virtually none—a dark horse.  How cool is that?  Like a private club. 
Smell Test:  8.  Smells pretty okay, for a beer. 
Taste:  10.  Once drinkers discover it, they stick with it. 
Availability:  7.  Pretty common in the southern islands, but nowhere north.  Exclusivity brings bonding? 
Tepidity:  9.  Stands up to the sun, if necessary.  Your best bet when cold can’t be found. 
Size Matters:  7.  Usually in large bottles.  But occasionally a bar fools you with smalls. 
Price:  9.  More than Carib, but much less than Heinie.   
Bonus:  10.  What’s not to love? 

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  • 2nd Place: HEINEKEN  (pronounced:  I-nuh-KEN!)
Name:  8.  Comfortable, familiar, ever-cool.  It’s the International Budweiser.  
Story:  8.  Comes from Holland, or whatever they’re called now.  They need attention. 
Marketing:  9.  Always classy and calming  Love that little red star. 
Smell Test:  4.  Smells skunky, if in a good way.  An acquired scent. 
Taste:  9.  Bottled all over, yet eternally consistent.  Effervescent, welcome mouthfeel. 
Availability:  10.  If any Caribbean joint has only 2 beers, one will be Heinie. 
Tepidity:  6.  Not good warm, but it disappears fast, so… 
Size Matters:  6.  Bad:  usually comes in mini-bottles (250 ml).  Good:  cute little cans. 
Price:  5.  Costs more for less liquid.  Ish! 
Bonus:  8.  Like and old friend.  Plus you look Euro and suave, if you wish. 
 
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  • 3rd Place:  HAIROUN (pronounced:  I-ROON!)
Name:  7.  Fun to say.  You sound local once you get it right.  Odd spelling, though. 
Story:  10. What St. Vincent used to be called, so big ups for nostalgia and stubbornness.
Marketing:  9.  Vincies love their homegrown.  “Our Island, Our Beer.”  Whoa! 
Smell Test:  5.  Could be worse. 
Taste:  7.  Goes down easy.  No problem, mon. 
Availability:  3.  Unheard of after you leave the SV Grenadines.  Withdrawal risk. 
Tepidity:  5.  No loitering.  Great ice-cold, but the warmer it gets, the more it sucks. 
Size Matters:  9.  Only seen it in 12 ounce bottles.  But never on tap loses a point. 
Price:  7.  Cheaper than Heineken, but not cheap enough.  
Bonus:  7.  Didn’t get tired of it for several weeks.  Great memories. 

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  • 4th Place:  CARIB  (pronounced:  CA-RIB)
Name:  9.  Almost Caribbean.  Named after fearless, feral Indian settlers. 
Story:  5.  Not much “there” there.  Brewed in many ports, with many ? waters. 
Marketing:  5.  Little to see beyond omnipresent personal endorsements. 
Smell Test:  3.  Smells so bad it’s often served with a lime. 
Taste:  3.  Kinda Corona-like, maybe worse.  Watery, wimpy colon-cleanser.   
Availability:  6.  Mostly avails S of the N/S Grenadian meridian; occasionally N. 
Tepidity:  1.  Not good cold, worse warm.  Must be ice-cold and pounded carelessly.   
Size Matters:  6.  Good: only comes in large units.  Bad:  only comes in large units. 
Price:  10.  Cheapcheap.  + sold where people party by renegades at miniscule markups.   
Bonus:  7.  Good: often served w/ lime; can be on tap.  Bad:  On tap can be flat & insipid. 
 

Island Learning: Keeping it Local

Posted on: Friday, February 13th, 2009
Posted in: Work/Life Hacking, Blog | One comment

Kids pick up a lot by experience and osmosis. But picking up books along the way perks up their sense of place—and increases their vernacular vocabulary. Wandering in little island book stores is a treat, too. The better ones do a fine job of providing local lesson materials, and make book browsing fun. 

Here’s just some of the stuff we’ve stumbled on that even the parents can appreciate…

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  • Children’s Stories.  Often written with some dialect and new words, they bring a child’s perspective to the big, old world.  “Away to Bequia” takes a quirky family sailing from St. Vincent to little Bequia.  “The Nutmeg Princess” features three haunting, local legends that make CurlyGirl’s blue eyes go wide open. 
  • Adventures.  AllBoy devours anything with some suspense and sea drama.  An adapted version of “Treasure Island” made him love a book his dad has never finished, while a Hardy Boys saga set on St. John brought new drama to familiar sites. 
  • Reference sources.  Fortunately, the better places you stay have stacks of guidebooks, nature books, maps, atlases, and more.  We thumb through those, plus pick up the likes of “A B Sea” for the little one and “Beneath Tropic Seas” for the tween.
  • Art materials.  Just handing out paper and pens to the kids brings forth some impressive interpretations of fish, plants, and local colors.  A coloring book like “Wet, Wild and Rare” not only provides fun drawings, but brief copy about the wildlife (non-human) of the Caribbean. 
  • Music.  Ears getting filled with song is the most ongoing and obvious proof that we’re far away.  It’s everywhere, all the time.  And although there is surprising variety, most of it is island-centric.  We pay attention in the buses and stores, go to hear it live, buy CDs, and even make our own with guitar and riddim instruments. 

A Tale of 2 Offers

Posted on: Wednesday, February 11th, 2009
Posted in: HR FYI, Blog | Leave a comment
The recession in England rages on, and Sabbaticals continue to make headlines at major newspapers as companies create new ways to keep trained workers, yet cut costs.  At KPMG, a heavy-hitter accounting firm, 69% of the firm’s 11,000 partners have volunteered to take a Sabbatical or work four days a week, both at reduced pay.  In labor-intensive Jaguar Land Rover, the opposite is happening:  Only 15 of 2,200 workers at the Vauxhall plant offered time off with 80% pay have signed up. 
 
KPMG keeps sweetening the pot, which no doubt is helping draw get more takers.  They’re now aiming for 75% participation.  Wow. 
 
Meanwhile, at Jaguar Land Rover, where employees can make 80% of their salary not to work for a while, the enthusiasm for the offer is negligible.  One employee sums it up this way,
“I’d rather be at work doing nothing than sitting at home spending money.” 
 
What’s going on here?  Let’s offer a few speculations…

  • KPMG partners probably have more savings—and feel more secure about their eventual futures because of more experience and education. 
  • KPMG employees likely don’t have a union, and thus work longer hours and more days, and may know burnout better and thus welcome time off. 
  • KPMG folks may feel more loyal toward their company, having endured less change of late—and having obtained the coveted “partner” status. 
  • Auto workers may fear their jobs just won’t be waiting for them, especially since Jaguar Land Rover is now owned by an Asian company that could gradually shift manufacturing to cheaper overseas plants. 
  • Auto workers could suspect that their jobs are better, and better paying, than the positions they might end up in if they are terminated. 
  • Jaguar Land Rover laborers have probably lived with lower salaries, and may not have much savings; in fact, they may be in debt situations where not working for 80% of their salary simply would not meet the debt load.
This tale of two offers suggests that the chasm between professional and labor is deeper than ever.  Scary times like these are hard on families, employee morale, and whole nations.
Kudos to KPMG and their partners for finding the courage to BreakAway from stability and leap into the some freedom, albeit with many asterixes attached.  Let’s hope some of the good people at Jaguar Land Rover find way to take the time, yet keep their larger lives intact. 
 

NYT Talks Grenada & I Talk Back

Posted on: Monday, February 9th, 2009
Posted in: Travelog, 4th Stop: Grenada, Latest Trip | 3 comments
On Saturday, February 7, the New York Times published a lengthy and insightful travel article, “In Grenada, Leaving the Past Behind,” by Ned Martel.  After digging into Grenada for the past 2+ weeks (and exploring the West Indies for nearly two months) I must say he’s mostly spot-on.  Yet a “conversation” with this big-time write-up is too tempting to pass up.  First, his quotes; then my replies…

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Leaving the past behind…”  
Yes, they’re working on building a brighter future.  But the past is omnipresent too, in ongoing hurricane repairs, print, street paintings, and conversations. In a bar where I killed an hour today, four locals debated 1974 and 1979 events the entire time.  Who in America can discuss politics circa the 70s? And would 95% of Americans wear the national colors the whole weekend during Independence celebrations?  No way.      
What I get is the feeling that folks are happy to see me, even if they see me on occasion as a human dollar sign.”  
True dat!  But folks here may have mastered the art of be happy, don’t worry.  And a dollar can buy a lot of happy down here.  An EC buck costs about US$.40, and seems more appreciated than in typical tourist economies—maybe because tourists are still rare on most of the island.  Mercifully, guests are rarely “horossed.”  What I’ve more noted is the generosity:  I couldn’t quantify the poundage of perfect produce that’s been cheerfully given to us.  And in Grenville, a kind vegetable vendor gifted my children two bags of cheesy chips after I’d refused to buy them.  She wins, my kids win, I smile and wag my finger at her coy smirk.  
The intervention.”  
Guidebooks may have clued me in.  But I’ve heard it called everything from “the invasion” to “the intervention” to “the liberation.”  Of course, politics run thicker than callaloo stew down here; I’ve seen people this weekend (their Independence Day) wearing Bishop t-shirts.  He was the one assassinated in ’83, shortly before “the intervention.” 
Islanders have savored relaxation so heartily…”  
No exaggeration:  I hear that word used many times a day by locals.  Like a mantra.  Not only are they selling it, they’re practicing the discipline themselves.  Loitering. Chilling. Hanging out. Grenadians have made it an art form.  They also say “rest” a lot.  If you ask if that’s the restaurant owner sitting at a corner table alone, they’ll just say, “Ya mon, he restin’.”  Nobody would question it if he sat there all night.  
An air of gratitude that suggests they couldn’t have enjoyed the freedoms of today without the despairs of yesterday.”  
Indeed, freedom rules.  Yet the customs and manners here are eerily old school, the people reverent and demure.  Not only do they say thank you, they always say you’re welcome.  As for the mentioned despairs, my guess is a gutsy, national pride has grown from all they’ve been through:  slavery, revolution, US invasion, huge hurricanes.  They work hard and take little for granted, including the fruits of their labor and the ease of feeling free.        
We stop half a dozen times.  
Yep.  At least.  Mr. Welcome Cummings is obviously a classy, high-end driver.  We’ve used recommended renegade drivers, who charge less but don’t have a taxi license, AC, or seatbelts, and who will stop dozens of times.  In the middle of the road.  The authenticity is priceless, and we meet local folks and gain instant insight into real-life Grenada.  Cell phones may be common, but Grenadians still communicate in person and on the move. 
More hypocrisy in the churches than in the rum shops.”  
Ha!  Perhaps, but there’s more macho, booming BS in the rum shops than all the churches combined.  Grenada is uncannily spiritual.  “All family belongs to a church,” I was told yesterday.  “Even the Roman Catholic dance in the aisles,” I was told today.  People paint inspirational messages—not graffiti—all over.  The public-transportation “reggae buses” have names like “Bless Up,” “Always Decent,” and “Yes Jah.”  The back windshield will boast verses as simple as, “God is Love” to “The sky is wide enough for a million stars.”  Like billboards in an American city, you can’t escape these messages—of positivity and faith.    
From the hilltop jail, convicts enjoy the best view of the island.”  
For real.  Methinks they could convert that hoosegow with a view into a chic S&M resort called “Incarceration,” except this conservative island has a dress code and doesn’t even allow cleavage (never mind that men carry knives and machetes).  The harborside hospital also has a stunning location, and has the rep of being full of new equipment—that no one knows how to use.  That, too, could make a nice fantasy resort…for wealthy hypochondriacs?
I could spend all night at Patrick’s, and with Patrick himself.”   

Put simply:  We had the exact opposite experience.  The worst night, worst food, worst encounter with a Grenadian.  Maybe it’s because I don’t write for The Times?  Or perhaps it was just fate. It matters not.  Travel teaches us that bliss comes in 555 forms.  And letdowns happen.  Even his waitress couldn’t handle Patrick that night, and our cabbie (nobody special) was embarrassed upon hearing our story.  We were the only table in the joint that evening.  But were also told that the previous night had been packed with naughty yachties.  Hmmm.  I’m glad the NYT writer had a good experience; that gives me simultaneous skepticism, hope, and—maybe—a reason to try again.

…endure a lot of stares and the occasional shout of ‘White man!’ even as I sit safely in One Dog’s passenger seat.”  
Yep.  My posse is a white man, woman, boy, and girl—all Scandinavian blonde and blue.  Been there, heard that–though we may have looked less “outsider” when traveling in the rusty jalopies of locals.  I prefer to think that we were novelties, not targets.  You know, like a donkey in the Mall of America, where everyone would no doubt yell, “Donkey!”  
We reach a spooky town…  
For sure, if you tour the many neighbohorhoods, villages and towns of Grenada, at least one will strike you as spooky.  Or your driver will tell you it is.  Or a “local lunatic” or “half-brained crackhead” will come at your car.  Spooky, or just predictable island drama?  Still, the worst vibe I felt and mischief I saw was PG compared to a drive through many ‘hoods in Minneapolis.  For fear management, I’ll take Grenada.  (Yet that cemetery at Carib Leap in Sauteurs was sorta creepy…) 
Obama!”  
For now, Americans are cool.  The Caribbean glows with the pride that the USA chose a Black man to be president.  His face appears on bumper stickers, gallery artworks, and roadside paintings—where he sitteth alongside the likes of Bob Marley, Nelson Mandela, MLK, and Fidel Castro.  
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  • In conclusion:  Great story, Ned.  Come back before February ends, and we’ll compare notes and local rums–on me.  And just for some extra theater, let’s have our last supper at Patrick’s. 
 

BreakAway Heroes Sail in from France

Posted on: Wednesday, February 4th, 2009
Posted in: Work/Life Hacking, Blog | 5 comments
So I have this Big Idea—about retiring now and then instead of waiting until your final years, even if it means working longer at the end or enacting some sacrifices along the way. But just when I’m feeling pretty smug about taking 4 Sabbaticals in 19 years, along come some real experts, my new heroes, this intrepid family from France.
              

Frank, France, Juliette, Jeanne & Colin, Lifehackers extraordinaire

Frank, France, Juliette, Jeanne & Colin, Lifehackers extraordinaire

My idea is hardly original.  And folks like this prove that advanced actualization is possible.  You see, they are in the middle of executing the unthinkable:  Taking one year to sail; including to and from Europe; while home-schooling their 3 children via a vigorous program; and leaving a 100-employee business behind in the mist. 
 
Truth is, we’ve met many Euro-families doing this—from Sweden, the Netherlands, and beyond.  You see their flags flying and hear their children playing on vessels throughout the islands.  But we connected for a lovely, long time with these good people. 
 
They were living on their sailboat in the harbor of our resort when we arrived.  Our children soon found each other, we started sharing meals, and spent many hours relaxing and chatting with them—from which I assemble this collage of quotes, courtesy of Frank and France, with ongoing validation from their children, Colin, Jeanne & Juliette (ages 6, 10, 12).
 
It Starts with a Dream
At first it was just my dream, but then it got shared by the whole family.  I wanted to show the kids that if you have a dream, it takes time—year after year.  It’s important to keep it, even if you’re not realizing it.  But if you want it bad enough, and work hard, you can usually achieve most of your goals. 
 
My dream was a big sail.  I’ve had it for 20 years.  The family became part of it 10 years ago, because we had children.  5 years ago, I made it a real project.  And three years ago, I told my business partner and company we need to make this possible.  To not disturb the company was important.  And yet, my customers were actually impressed, not upset. 
 
I made a deal with my partner:  I do this, and you can also have a year off to use however you wish.  He still has that to look forward to. 
 
Workaholism Became Big Motivator
I work a lot.  The average week is 60 hours, I’d say.  A big awakening moment for me was realizing that I’d almost missed the births of two out of my three children.  I realized:  These are the big occasions of your life.  You have to be there.  They won’t happen again.  I decided if I wanted to see my children grow up, it was time to recalibrate my priorities. 

Getting the Children on Board
The timing was based largely on the children.  We figured that our oldest, 12, would be harder to remove from her social life at 13 or 14.  During planning, she did think a year would be too long.  But now that we are doing it, she keeps asking if we can keep sailing for another year! 
 
We had to convince them that this was our big chance for time together.  For exciting exploration—which I think is more important than school. 
 
The transition was difficult for all of us.  Being on a boat 24/7 with no escapes, well, sometimes that led to big explosions.  It’s easier now.  We’ve found ways to give free space and time.  Navigating.  Photos.  Art and play.  We all work on a website about the trip.  And of course, home schooling eats up a lot of time. 

Home Schooling a la France:  All Hands on Deck! 
As French citizens, to leave for a year, we MUST educate our children through a program called Centre Nationalee D’Enseignement a’ Distance.  There are 200,000 French students all over the world!  It goes as high as Ph.D.  We are registered to two different schools.  We belong to classes with teachers.  It’s very challenging and administrative. 
 
There are many, many books and supplies on board.  We have to do things like record music lessons on cassette and send it to France.  There, a teacher listens, records comments, and sends it back.  They even expect us to do chemistry experiments!  We’ve gotten bad grades and been scolded in e-mails for being late.  It’s taken much more time and focus than we expected, but we keep at it and do our best. 

Setting Sail on an Ambitious Adventure
The nice thing about life on a boat is that you can go anywhere.  It’s like having a move-able house on water.  We started from France, of course, and have done stops in Spain, the Canary Islands, Senegal, the Capo Verde islands, Barbados, the Grenadines, and Bequia.  We’ll spend some serious time in the French-Caribbean islands and Cuba before crossing the Atlantic to go home again. 
 
As for rough moments—besides privacy and home schooling.  We did have a medical emergency while crossing in September.  For a few hours, it was very scary.  One daughter got seriously ill, with many symptoms, and we thought it might be appendicitis.  That would NOT be easy to handle alone in stormy seas. 
 
Another terrible moment was going through customs on one particular island.  We made a simple mistake:  We had a friend on board—who had helped us cross over.  We arrived late, after customs was closed, and he had an early flight out the next morning, so we didn’t declare him.  Bad idea.  Customs figured that out and five agents surrounded, shouted, and grilled me for thirty minutes, like a scene from Midnight Express.
 
They told me the penalty is $5,000, one year in prison, or both.  Somehow, I kept my cool.  And they eventually backed off.  The calendar helped save me because, in the end, they said, “You’re lucky tomorrow is Christmas and we’re closed, so we’re going to drop the whole matter.”  That is NOT a good memory, though. 

Soon Comes the Hard Part:  Return to Reality
First came planning, and then the trip itself.  But the part that may be most difficult is going home.  We get back in July and school begins in September.  So for the kids, that transition will probably be easier.  But some of their friends may have moved on, so there could be other issues. 
 
I fear going back to work, I guess.  What if people have taken on too much autonomy and won’t listen to me any more?  I may have to refocus some people, or even ask if the company still needs me at all.  And my partner and I will need to learn to work together again after all this time and change. 
 
I don’t look forward to the weather, of course.  Where we live in France has a long, gray winter.  Would you believe I prefer this beautiful tropical season? 
 
  • But more than anything, I worry about ennui—being bored.  After a dream-come-true like this, will routine and work feel worthwhile and satisfying?  We will see. Perhaps to start thinking about the next big dream will be one way to survive the transition…

Thanks for the reminder.  Our Sabbatical ends months before you sail back across the big pond. So yes, it’s time to savor every setting, prepare for the impending re-entry, and start working toward the next big BreakAway.